Sex in the 'Ville
Can Men and Women Really just be friends or does the Sex part always get in the way?
Issue date: 9/23/09 Section: Features
By Tara Carr and Nicole Haskins
Rotunda Reporters
When it comes to friendships between men and women there's always the question of where things could go…
Even though most male-female relationships stay platonic, at some point someone could develop feelings. There's always some level of sexual tension inherently between the two genders. It's only human nature for us to think about whether or not we could see ourselves with that person romantically. After all, most good, solid relationships are based on friendship. The problem comes in when our friendship with that person threatens a relationship with your significant other. It's okay to test the waters if you are single, but if you're in a monogamous relationship, then you should probably think about the impact this friendship could have on your relationship.
As a college student, it's necessary to have your own set of friends in order to discover your true self and form a sense of independence. Every relationship needs a balance of inclusion and separation. It is important for you to feel confident in your own identity with or without your partner. You can contribute more to the relationship if you are happy within yourself, and having friends outside of the relationship can add to that.
Still there must be a level of trust in order for the two of you to have a happy relationship. A lot of people say, "I trust my partner, but I don't trust their friend". You never know what their intentions are for being in the friendship in the first place. It could especially become a problem if it's not a mutual friend between the two of you. If it's someone outside of your circle of friends, you have to understand that your boyfriend or girlfriend may not have the same level of trust as you do for that person. After all, how do you really know what's going on in their mind?
You have to really ask yourself if having that friend is worth jeopardizing your relationship. How is that special friend really benefiting you? Is having that friend of the opposite sex worth losing the one you love? If the answer to this question is no, then you might have to let your friend go or at least begin to distance yourself from the friendship.
Rotunda Reporters
When it comes to friendships between men and women there's always the question of where things could go…
Even though most male-female relationships stay platonic, at some point someone could develop feelings. There's always some level of sexual tension inherently between the two genders. It's only human nature for us to think about whether or not we could see ourselves with that person romantically. After all, most good, solid relationships are based on friendship. The problem comes in when our friendship with that person threatens a relationship with your significant other. It's okay to test the waters if you are single, but if you're in a monogamous relationship, then you should probably think about the impact this friendship could have on your relationship.
As a college student, it's necessary to have your own set of friends in order to discover your true self and form a sense of independence. Every relationship needs a balance of inclusion and separation. It is important for you to feel confident in your own identity with or without your partner. You can contribute more to the relationship if you are happy within yourself, and having friends outside of the relationship can add to that.
Still there must be a level of trust in order for the two of you to have a happy relationship. A lot of people say, "I trust my partner, but I don't trust their friend". You never know what their intentions are for being in the friendship in the first place. It could especially become a problem if it's not a mutual friend between the two of you. If it's someone outside of your circle of friends, you have to understand that your boyfriend or girlfriend may not have the same level of trust as you do for that person. After all, how do you really know what's going on in their mind?
You have to really ask yourself if having that friend is worth jeopardizing your relationship. How is that special friend really benefiting you? Is having that friend of the opposite sex worth losing the one you love? If the answer to this question is no, then you might have to let your friend go or at least begin to distance yourself from the friendship.
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Mike Ymous
posted 9/29/09 @ 8:36 AM EST
You forgot the most famous couple that started as just friends. (Jay and Preston)
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